What makes people haters

Perhaps they once rejected you — in some way — for something. Then you had the audacity to improve yourself and your life! How dare you! As a result, your haters now feel like they are missing out on the new improved you.

Or maybe you simply are choosing not to socialize with them as often as they want. Or work with them. You used to share a problem in common: overeating, or binge drinking, or toxic romantic partners.

You then found a way to leave the problem behind you — while they are still caught up in the chaos. Maybe they are a narcissist, sociopath or have some kind of personality disorder. Perhaps they had a terrible childhood — and thereby hurt people want to hurt people. Or they were raised with hateful, judgmental beliefs. Unfortunately, all of these types of people are mostly comfortable with resentment and drama. Not you. Appreciate those who are happy for your happiness and sad for your sadness.

These are the people to truly treasure. Most people are struggling to like themselves. I will give you video training in short 3 — 10 minute videos to help you create better boundaries, disarm toxic people, and live drama-free.

Think about subscribing for free weekly tools here. There is no reason in a true hater. As humans, we make the mistake of thinking we can fix people, that with enough love, even true haters will stop hatin'. They won't. True haters are sick people. Adolf Hitler was a true hater. There was no changing Hitler, he was beyond fixing. How do you define a hater? List qualities of a friend. Look at that list.

Haters won't possess the qualities you seek out in people. Sometimes we have friends that are constantly tearing us apart -- no constructive criticism, just negativity. Make that list, see if these so-called friends have any of the qualities you'd want a friend to have.

Sometimes we confuse people who are around us, as friends. Friends don't hate, they honestly critique. Check yourself, don't surround yourself with haters. Sometimes you hear people say, "You either hate me or you love me.

Love and hate are more closely connected than we think, there just different sides of the same coin. When someone hates you they still deeply care about you. When you are doing good work, someone will love it, not everyone, but someone will. You gotta worry when no one cares enough to pay attention to you.

When people don't love or hate you -- when people don't care enough to feel any way about you and what you are doing -- that's when you worry. Hate is not the opposite of love, indifference is. There is no need to brag or try to validate yourself further. Instead, trust your own instinct and respond in a humble, respectful manner. Dealing with your haters is also a great opportunity to better handle conflict.

You could be put in challenging situations, with someone calling you out in a big way on social media or at an event.

Use these experiences as opportunities to learn to navigate conflict. Sometimes you can just take the high road but, in other situations, the response needs to be more nuanced. Managing anger is also a great challenge in life. People might say things to you that invoke high levels of anger for a variety of reasons. Instead of lashing back, learn to respond calmly. Take advantage of all the negative words and actions you might be victim to. If you can stay composed in these high-pressure or anxiety-provoking situations, then you will learn to control your anger.

Doing so will pay off countless times throughout life. There are going to be many negative people in your life. Worrying about their opinions of you will only make you worse off. We cannot get everyone to like us. Therefore, haters serve as a great group to learn this lesson.

We feel even less of an urge to get them to like us compared to people we might know better. Learning to accept that not everyone is going to like you will enable you to focus your attention on the things that matter more. These include being present, challenges at hand, and working to become a better person. You might receive deeply personal insults that attack your beliefs or character. That said, you do not have to conform to anybody else's beliefs.

Instead, you should be proud of what makes you unique. Learning to love yourself for who you are will enable you to live a more independent-thinking life. That will lead to greater levels of satisfaction and accomplishment. Others might tell you that your self employed business will never succeed or that you will never accomplish your goals.

You can use these negative responses as motivation to succeed.